Reduce Differences in Dealing with People
① What makes some people so easy to get along with and others so difficult? We think that conflict in a relationship happens when the focus is on the differences, rather than on the similarities. Think of it as "United we stand divided we can't stand each other."
② So bringing down differences is important to dealing with people you cannot stand. Success in communication depends on finding common ground, and then trying to lead the communication toward a new outcome.
③ An important communication skill will help you get along with others: blending. "Blending" refers to behavior by which you reduce the differences between yourself and another person. This skill is not new, of course; it is part of normal human contact. In fact, you already use it, to some extent.
④ You can blend with people in many ways. You may blend by changing your facial expression or degree of body movement to match that of the other person. You may also blend by trying to match the style and speed of the other person's speech. And you may even blend with people by matching their ideas.
⑤ When people feel you've listened to them and you understand them, that's the result of blending. It's natural to blend with people you like or with people you share a goal with. It's also natural not to blend with difficult people, but the result is serious. Without blending, the differences between you become the basis for conflict.
A. similar conflicts
B. human relations
C. focus on the differences
D. suffer bad consequences
E. the seeking of common ground
F. match the speech style of others
25. If you do not blend with others, you may ____.
【正确答案】：D
【题目解析】：文章的最后提到不与难相处的人相处也是很自然的，但结果却很严重。没有融合，你们之间的差异就会成为冲突的基础，说明如果你不与他人交往，你可能会遭受不良后果，故选D。
